Why do we need medicine? The pills that doctors instruct us to take three times a day..
Why are we ‘obese to the point of dysfunction’, why are we mentally sick, why do we have personality disorders? Why are we ailing at all…
Now there are many alternative therapies that can heal us, and my post is not about that. I’m dwelling on why do we have this problem in the first place. Why couldn’t we be healthy all life!
We are sick because we do not honor the physical, emotional, psychological, and mental needs of our body.
Why do we ignore our needs? Because we have not been taught to be true to ourselves. Right from the moment we are born, there are people around us judging us, labeling us, telling us how to behave, teaching us what to expect when we throw a tantrum, (calling it a tantrum in the first place), and so on.
When we grow up, we are so well conditioned with these false ideas, that we learn pretension is better than reality.
We feel ashamed of our true reality. Why the hell should I feel ashamed, guilty, nervous, or anxious if someone knows the real me? Because I’ve learned that I will not be valued. So I will just pretend to be agreeable and pleasing.
But maybe you really want to be your true self, and be that without shame or guilt. I want to wear a bright red dress and not a white one because I feel pretty. It fulfills my need for beauty. Maybe I want to travel and not worry about saving money because it fulfills my need for adventure.
There will always be people around you who will tell you sacrificing your happiness is a good way to live. But what they don’t tell you is that it should happen voluntarily. The moment you pretend, the same moment you are suppressing an emotion to your subconscious.
That suppressed emotion lives there, grows and becomes a disease. Dis-ease. It is at dis-ease with your natural self.
Many more suppressed emotions on a daily basis, result in a whole lot of diseases and ailments. There is nothing a doctor can do for us, in such cases. The real remedy is helping ourselves heal by being true to ourselves and honoring our needs.
And by that I mean, giving yourself what you truly need, and not what you believe you need to impress others.